Today was a bad day!
I could not seem to get out of my own way today, and it was more than what I assume a typical “funk” would be. Rather, I felt as if I was a step behind my usual pace. I missed out on a contract because I didn’t pursue a partner as frequently as I should have. Additionally, I am recovering from a major cheat day on my typical eating strategy. That would probably explain my feeling sluggish. We all have a bad day from time to time, and mine don’t show up too frequently. Perhaps I shouldn’t complain.
What does the science say?
Scientific American published an article that talked about the fact that bad moods are contagious. We as a people have a tendency to replicate the emotions we see on other people’s faces. As we all may have heard in the past, simply smiling has the ability to improve our mood. Is it far-fetched to imagine that the opposite is true, that expressions of anger can inspire angry feelings? If that is true, then bad moods could truly be contagious.
This negativity breeds further negative energy and thought. Perpetuating the negative energy is unlikely to result in a positive outcome. This raises the likelihood of another bad day coming up.
Why should I stop?
As we all know, the biggest reason behind complaining is the venting. Everyone loves to complain to “get it off [my] chest”, but have you ever noticed that it usually results in more complaining? Maybe you aren’t the one continuing it, but before long your entire group is discussing things they hate. While this can be fun from time to time, in some groups, it should not be a staple in the topics of conversation for you and your friends.
What should I do when I have a bad day?
Some of the things that help me are to look at a bigger scale. This is one day in my lifetime. Even if it were to stretch itself for longer, it is still a drop in the bucket of time. Additionally, today wasn’t a total bust, as I made some sales on Amazon this evening. Additionally, not to be that guy, but I have a roof over my head, clothes on my body, food in my kitchen, and family that loves me. There are many things to be grateful for.
No one can be that positive all the time.
This is absolutely right. You have every right to complain about things bothering you. This is especially true when it is in hope of putting a solution in place. I read somewhere that being told “there are always people that have it worse than you” is just like being told you can’t be upset about smashing your thumb with a hammer because there are people out there that have lost their entire hand. (I completely paraphrased that one…) No one can take away your feelings, however, it is the polite thing to do to not drag anyone down with you.
A bad day is no fun…
but tomorrow is a new opportunity to do better. Just remember that when things get tough it is perfectly acceptable to retreat, regroup, then return!